What's the story, morning glory?

I slept with another man without telling my then boyfriend. I continued to elude him when I found out I was pregnant, certain it was his child. When he suggested we get married, I wanted to wait, not because of the possibility I was carrying another man's child, but because I didn't want to rush into it. I'd only known him for 6 months, and had just gotten a divorce. But marry we did, and I still did not tell him of the other man. I was still certain the child was his, and convinced we would have a happy life together.

I decided that I would have to tell my husband sooner or later about the other man. I decided I couldn't bear to break the news to him while he was deployed, not knowing how badly he would take it, because he was under enough stress. But it turned out he had his own suspicions, and asked me outright if I had been with anyone else before we married. I couldn't lie, and then tell the truth later. I had to tell him. Of course he was devastated, felt betrayed. The truth of the matter was we had not committed to an exclusive relationship, but the timing was such that the paternity of our son was in question. He demanded a DNA test, and instructed me to buy one over-the-counter and send it to him overseas. It took almost a month with the shipping time and lab processing for us to get the results, excluding my husband as the biological father.

My husband immediately wanted a divorce, and called me hateful names, told me he hated me. Asked me how I could do this to him. But these words came after him telling me he couldn't leave me no matter what, that we would work through it if the results were negative, that being newly divorced he would've acted the same way. So, he wanted me to order a divorce online since it was non-contested, that he would pay for it and the filing fee. Quick and painless. But there was a child involved, and we couldn't use the DNA test we had bought as legal evidence. So I had to hire an attorney, since he was still overseas. He offered to pay half the retainer fee, I had to sell both my wedding rings, my electric guitar and amplifier, all of my CDs, and still borrow $300 from my parents for the rest of my half.

My husband was impatient, asked me why I was delaying sending the divorce papers to him, that he was ready to sign. I told him we had to have an official DNA test. He told me to have the biological father take the DNA test, he had already paid for one. I had already attempted to contact the alleged father by email, the only means I had, and as of yet have heard nothing from him. Since the test can't be performed while he is overseas, we will have to wait to file until he is back in the states to take a test. In the meantime, he told me he trusted me not to take all our money and run, but instead he did exactly that. He said he was required to pay dependent support until the divorce was final, gave me two months up front, and proceeded to open his own account and take all of the money out of our joint accounts, totaling no less that $6000. Suddenly, a stay at home mother found herself jobless, no means of income, $1500 a month in bills to pay, and a child to raise on her own.

My husband somewhere found a change of heart and decided he wanted to work things out. I was skeptical, because he had been so inconsistent, didn't follow through with anything he said, every other day was another hateful, demeaning email, with no regard for how I felt about the situation. But I had to move to Seattle. He couldn't be around my family, couldn't have them creating a negative environment for him. I told him this was not negotiable. And that we had probably gone too far past a point of forgiveness for each others' words and actions. He actually agreed, and I guess we've decided to go ahead with the divorce.

Of course, this is the short, clean version of the story. But for those who may have been wondering what was going on with all of my other rants and raves (all few of you, by the "blog views" count), there it is.